Helping Youth Have a Faith of Their Own

The fact that youth participate in church less as they get older and often are not present in church as young adults can lead church leaders to assume they lack religious interest. A new book growing out of the National Study of Youth and Religion challenges that assumption. Sociologists Lisa Pearce and Melinda Lundquist Denton found that older teens and young adults see great significance in religion though not always in institutional forms of religious life.

In their book A Faith of Their Own: Stability and Change in the Religiosity of America’s Adolescents (Oxford University Press, 2011), the authors follow up with 2,530 young people, age 16 to 21, surveyed about their faith and religious practices at two points in time. The authors identified five types of religious identity among these young persons.

Abiders (20 percent). These are the adolescents with the highest levels of religious interest and practice. They not only believe in God; they pray regularly, attend services, volunteer, and are most likely to say their religion is the only true faith.

Adapters (20 percent). This group shows high levels of personal religiosity. But compared to the Abiders, they are more accepting of other people’s faiths and attend religious services more sporadically. The Adapters are most likely of all the groups to help others in need.

Assenters (31 percent). These teens say they believe in God, but they are minimally engaged with their faith. Religion is tangential to other aspects of their lives.

Avoiders (24 percent). They believe in God but do not engage in any religious practice. Their God is a distant one, and they often do not name a religious affiliation.

Atheists (5 percent). They do not believe in God and do not attend services.

Meaning for Congregations

What might this mean for congregations wanting to be sensitive to the faith perspectives of youth? We know that participation in formal religious services means little to many youth. They do not necessarily see themselves as less religious because they attend worship less often. The church is often not their primary community of meaning during these years.  

The writers suggest that congregations can support youth as they refine their religious identity with an approach called “scaffolding.” Scaffolding creates a context in which youth can participate at a level just beyond where they are currently. Instead of asking youth to go where they are not ready to go, they are helped to grow from where they are. Hallmarks of all such efforts must be honesty and acknowledgement of the role of doubt in faith.

All people have distinctive issues and needs at various life stages. One lesson from this research is the importance of supporting youth in appropriate ways during these critical years.

Lovett H. Weems, Jr.

Lately exploration of my talents have allowed me to push myself beyond my comfort zone or normal box.  I owe a lot to a friend for giving me this confidence.
Here is the drawing me coaxed me into finishing.  Thanks friend.

"Make me a coffee table!"  I said okay.
I started my search over a few weeks....keying in on finish.  I have had surgery and thud taking longer to make. Yet, I think this should provide the time I need to fit the job to my friend like a glove.
Here is the base painted a different color, Foss. 

It has a handle that opens with two shelves for storage.  I may put some other specific storage.    Next, I painted this and will glue it ontop of this base.

Take off the frame and ornate art stuff and you have a shelf shadowbox from the 70's.  I painted it Foss.  Embossed pictures of my friend from her family and a few from mine over years and during college will be put onto of the mirror part in hopefully a eye catching arrangement.  I plan to throw in some pharmacy memento's and SWOSU stuff....just enough.   
I asked opinions.  .....what should the top be solid wood, glass or give me a suggestion.  I believe I have my answer and pray I find the size and just right fit to make it pop.  That would make finishing this upcycling nice for me.
I am now looking for two pieces of wood/glass.  Wood all around with glass in the middle like cabinets and a knob on to where it opens in the middle of the coffee table.  I have been surfing the web for a couple of hours and found nothing but I have a few weeks to finish this.
Please provide feedback.  Websites with ideas and training and other hints.  Tell me things you like about my ideas and those you don't.  Any good business person knows sucess depends on satisfing your customers.  Money may not be any issue yet but making something for a person that likes it is a starting goal.  I am considering this is a side business...but long way off.

Iran Deal; Like Cattle Herded – 
History Lesson Go Unheeded And Our Freedoms Dwindle 
 
 
            At this URL site https://www.whitehouse.gov/issue..., the heading is “The Historic Deal That Will Prevent Iran From Acquiring a Nuclear Weapon.”  Our President, Barack Obama, is confident the deal he has brokered will accomplish this.  Or, does he?  After all President Obama is a student of history and as a lawyer he has experience in looking at a track record as a tool to predict future behavior. Or, am I assuming to much in this case?
 
         Germany, Russia, European Union, China, France, the United Kingdom and the United States agree to the terms of a deal that “will verifiably prevent Iran from acquiring a nuclear weapon.”  It allows for peaceful development of nuclear energy to meet the nation’s power needs. 
 
This URL, http://www.nei.org/Knowledge-Cen...will give you a list of countries besides the United States operating Nuclear Power Plants.  Pakistan (remember we found Osama bin Laden in a compound there) and Iran are two countries with nuclear power that concern me.  Remember the Pakistan scientist that admitted on TV he gave North Korea technology and other secrets on nuclear power. North Korea boasts of testing nuclear weapons.
 
If you had a friend that kept borrowing money over period of thirty or so years without repaying it, is it smart to keep loaning him money?  Then say that same friend wants to make a deal to repay you for some but not all of the money but doesn’t want you to run a credit report, is this a wise move?  
 
What is Iran’s track record?  In the years of 1979 to 1980, a group of terrorist’s kidnapped, held, brutalized and traumatized fifty-two Americans in the U.S. Iranian embassy.  Former, Mahmoud Ahmadinejad denies being one of the hostage takers but one must admit in photos he resembles a hostage taker. Ask yourself this, in the Iranian Political realm would such a person benefit from being such a person?  Could this help or hurt him climb a political ladder? Look him up in the Wikipedia. It states he was a member of a group called “Office for Strengthening Unity.”  Look up this group to find this quote, “The OSU played a central role in the seizure of the United States embassy in Tehran (Office for Strengthening Unity).
 
Thus, 1979 starts the “Iran Hostage Affair,”  and sets the tone for U.S. – Iran relations for years to come.  An article at this URL gives a timeline of this relationship. Timeline on the Relationship Between the United States and Iran. The article talks about Iran working on nuclear power plants before the hostage taking but the post revolutionary Prime Minister cancels the contract. There are a series of other tidbits about Iran seeking nuclear power and the famous Pakistan individual that helped North Korea is nestled warmly in these transactions.
 
The United States protects Arab shipping in the 80’s.  Iran fires on American missile Frigate the Stark killing 37 people.  During a skirmish with the Iranian gunboats a commercial Iran air flight is shot down killing 290 people. The United States paid a dollar sum for compensation of loss of life in this case.   
 
Have the American Iranian hostages ever been compensated a dollar figure for their trauma?  Former hostages addressed President Obama to make this part of the deal but articles and answers say the deal is about one thing, getting Iran to stop the path toward developing a nuclear weapon.  August of 2002 it is revealed that Iran is making advancement in nuclear power and uranium enrichment. Then in November of 2004 Iran says it halts Uranium production.  Our own government talks about finding secret facilities that could be used for a weapons program; here is the URL for that information The Politics of Iran's Nuclear Program.
 
         Remember all the times Iran turned back U.N. inspectors of their nuclear power program?  What were they hiding?  Over how many decades now have evaded and denied progress in the development of nuclear power and weapon’s grade uranium?  What have they done to earn our trust?  How many American’s have they imprisoned?  How many American’s and other world citizen’s have been abused while in Iran?  We must remember the U.N. Speech by a former Iranian President. 
 
         It is about time to take a stroll down history lane.  Does the name Adolf Hitler ring any bells?   Does the name prompt people to remember the error in under estimating him?  Hitler rolled into countries and people gave up their freedom without a fight with great costs.  
 
         How many recall a man names Winston Churchill: writer, British Army Officer and Prime Minister of the United Kingdom from 1940 to 1945?  Regrettably to the world in failing to notice and act on Winston Churchill’s prophetic words of “Prepare for War!”  I read a biography Churchill in grade school that tells of a trip he made to Germany where he sees a huge military build up.  Churchill tries to convince his country for some time to respond and take a page out of Roman history that preparing for war can prevent a war.  Too sad his words fell on deaf ears at first. Go to this URL for some information on this Winston Churchill's Prewar Effort to Increase Military Spending.
 
         Hitler rolled into many countries very easily.  Many people sat in their glass houses ignoring the picture in front of them. Millions of people lost their lives and freedom during this time.  
 
         How can the U.S. and these countries making the deal and “verifiably prevent Iran from acquiring a nuclear weapon.”  Help me see anything on the Iranian side that gives them an ounce of credit or goodwill we should trust.  I urge people to look at the deal for themselves.  This URL Iran Deal Textwill lead you to a PDF of the deal.  PLEASE LET US BE A NATION THAT REMEMBERS HISTORY AND LEARNS FROM IT.  Think about the status of the Middle East at this time.  Is the Middle East the picture of stability?  Will it be stable in the near future?  Or, is it more likely that stability is a long way off and this deal only increases the chances for diversion of uranium and a culture of groups in search of the best weapons of mass destruction?
 
         My last statement is where I beg you to think about your freedom, history and to stand up for what our military has guarded for so long.  Millions of people may be saved if we turn this deal down and make a country earn trust before giving everything with no real way of making Iran accountable.  Personally, I will speak up, as is my right, to keep my freedoms.   
 
         One last thought.  If many people are killed or end up living in a country where they face a Hitler, should we respond and save them or only defend ourselves?
 
Mrs. Sandra Lynn Mallo Adcock D.Ph. M.S.M.

Recently, in an online group, a person was talking about the high cost of brand names drugs.  It is a fact that sometimes people require the brand name.  Precise concentrations, allergies, and other factors are contributions to this requirement.  Insurance programs do have a process for handling this requirement.  The Doctor's office must fill out a Prior-Authorization(PA) form.  Yet, this takes time and the patient needs the medication before the process can be complete. A few insurance companies will pay for a few days of the drug while this process is in the works.

Six hundred dollars a month is the cost this person is paying until the PA is complete. How many people can afford this alone? Those having children or family members with special needs(health conditions)? Or, along with paying insurance costs? 

I had to post some information.  Next year under the new law things may change.  This information is intended to help.   Please use the information if it helps.  BUT, remember to ALWAYS CHECK WITH YOUR HEALTH CARE PROVIDERS and realize things change.  Now that is said I pray this can alleviate some issues for some people.

I am cooking cookies and fighting a dog that wants them while writing this.

Sandie, our dog, helped herself to the cookie dough on the spatula!  Can I have a break on some spelling please?

Back to the help with drug costs.  There are sites that can give you information on how to get Patient Assistance. I will provide a few. Usually the assistance comes from drug companies.  Besides these sites one can check with organizations such as Cancer Association of American, Leukemia Society and on and on. 

Income restrictions do apply.  That said, there are allowances to adjust the income.  Cost of total prescriptions, out of pocket insurance costs along with other reasons can help a person qualify for help.  Copay assistance is available also.

If you think only low income people can get aid with prescription costs, think again.  Many companies will pay for the copayment of a brand name drug.  Check online.  Type in the company that makes the drug or the brand name of the company.  Ask your pharmacist or doctor if he has any copayment cards.  Check online for Rx coupons.  There could be a one time deal.  The reason for this is to have a person try a drug before then given time for the patient to make budget considerations.

REMEMBER TO CHECK WITH HEALTHCARE PROVIDERS, THIS IS ONLY INFORMATION AIMED TO HELP IF POSSIBLE.  Liability is on yourself to check up to date information.  I mainly wish to provide help that some people may be unaware of.

Here are a few online sites.

           >>>https://www.rxhope.com  ;   >>>http://rxoutreach.org ; >>>http://www.healthfinder.gov/rxdrug/

           >>>http://www.webmd.com/healthy-aging/patient-assistance-programs-for-prescription-drugs

           >>>http://rxassist.org/ ;     >>>www.needymeds.org ;     >>https://www.pparx.org/

          >>>https://www.pparx.org/prescription.../co_payment_programs ;  

          >>>http://www.scbn.org/ (FOR UNINSURED ONLY)   >>>http://www.panfoundation.org

         >>>http://www.chelincoln.org/project_spotlight/health_360.html ; >>>https://theassistancefund.org

        >>>http://www.patientadvocate.org/patient_services.php?p=751

RECALL I STATED A FEW COMPANIES PROVIDE PATIENT ASSISTANCE  and to try looking up there information?  Here are a few sites as examples.

   >>>http://www.pfizer.com/health/financial_assistance_programs/patient_assistance_programs

   >>>http://www.astrazeneca-us.com/medicines/help-affording-your-medicines

   >>>http://www.merckhelps.com/mpap/

HAVE INSURANCE AND THINK YOU ARE BEYOND THE DRUG HELP FOR COPAYS? Try or use these sites as examples to check copay cards.

   >>>http://www.mypfizerbrands.com/home?  ;       source=google&HBX_PK=s_copay+card&o=111430894|284395621|0&skwid=43700005603470797

  >>>https://www.cellcept.com/copaycard

  >>>http://www.natlconsumersleague.org/health/106-prescription-drugs/768-ways-to-save-on-rx-meds-co-pay-cards-and-other-resources

RECOLLECT MENTIONING COUPONS? CHECK for your medication brand name specifically when looking for help.

   >>>http://www.freecopay.com/

  >>>http://www.goodrx.com/topamax

ASK FOR HELP.  Doctors, nurses and pharmacists may have the information you need.  Give them a break.  Focusing on your health issues and you the patient occupy a huge percent of the brain.  The desire to be correct comes before the price considerations.  Knowing the pharmacy side a little better, I suggest asking during a time when business is slower,  Saturday afternoons, Sunday afternoons and in the evening between 7 and say 8:30 are better to get the attention of a pharmacist for this type of question.  Please understand I expect all providers to do their jobs. I know however these times provide a break from the pressure of heavy work times.

Some organizations give prescription support also.  Here on some examples of links to try.

>>>http://www.cancer.org/treatment/findingandpayingfortreatment/managinginsuranceissues/prescriptiondrugassistanceprograms/prescription-drug-assistance-programs-toc

>>>http://www.lls.org/resourcecenter/helpfulorganizations/financialresources/insureddrugcosts/

Furthermore, seek out local agencies for guidance.  These organizations are there to serve the public.  Call the local Health Department, Department of Human Services and various other agencies. 

Going without medication can increase costs of healthcare for every person.  By giving you this information I hope it keeps a person out of the emergency room.  TRY NEVER TO GO WITHOUT MEDICATION.

I APOLOGIZE FOR REPEATING MY SELF ON THIS POINT.  THIS IS NOT A SUBSTITUTE FOR MEDICAL ADVISE, INTENDED TO REPLACE YOUR PROVIDERS OR INDICATE SWITCHING MEDICATION AND ON AN ON.

Please let me know if this is helpful.  Leave a comment.  Do you like my writing?  Think this is a subject that needs to be written on more?  What are your needs for information? 

Thank you for your time. 

Pushing Begins in Labor and Continues Through Life

Today is the day after my son turned 18 years old.  Reflecting back, I realize when they told me to push during labor, that was the begining of a continual process.   Whether your child has special needs or is quote "normal," it is a parental job to push children beyond their comfort zone.

Sometimes I have felt guilty for being "General Mommy or Sergeant Mommy;" so nicknamed by dad, my husband Bill.

Tanner was not an easy baby.  He had troubles eating from the start.  He through up and would be considered a colic baby.  Working with doctors and listening to the expereince of my mom(mother of four) resulted in putting rice in each bottle to help decrease the throwing up and weight gain proceeded.

At the age of six months, Tanner landed in the hospital for RSV (Respiratory Syncytial Virus).  Funny now but not at the time my sister recalls that I was not making sense and thought I was kidding when I called her to tell her  You see I was a nervous parent going from the doctor's office straight to the hospital and told her he had RSVP virus.

The hospital stay was almost a week.  It may have been worse for my husband and I to endure than Tanner.  Seeing your child in an oxygen tent and having tests ran in a haze of a short time is traumatic.  Then they tell you to move because you are in the way! Parental rights show up in your eyes resulting in a "Please" being spit out immediately and apoligetically.  He came along fine after about three months of nebulizer treatments, beating on the chest with a suction cup to break up secrestions and being on/off antibiotics.

Tanner was sick off and on quite often.  It seems I can remember all of his early holidays being sick.  My sister, that dresses very professionly all the time, was thrown up on and her car when she took him to the doctor for me right before his first Christmas.  That was one of the first holidays he was sick on.

Tanner weighted 17 pounds at one year old. Both my husband I worried about him.  He didn't or wouldn't eat well sometimes.  He stayed on his formula until he was about two years old or a bit older.  He refused milk.

At thirteen months if was obvious we were dealing with more than one could understand. My husband moved a toy or his cup about an inch or two.  He came back running to move it back to the exact position.  I new then and along with some other things observed there was something "wrong" or not quite right.

I am telling you all this for a reason.  This made it hard to make hard choices when he was older.  Worring about his health and weight gain, we let him start eating an unhealthy diet.  This wasn't at the time but it developed into a stance later on.  This also made being hard on him extremely trying.

Thus, began the parental divide on how to parent.  How do you face the something "wrong" or not normal along with health concerns?  I realized that at a certain point I couldn't go the path of least reistance.  Everyone had advise but I read while seaching for the reasons.  Family said not to worry and my husband appeard to me to like "denial."

Then and there I decided a proactive approach was best.  I proceeded to get Tanner into Preschool at age three.  I pushed for extra therapies like, speech and music.  I enrolled him in Kindermusic because of the benefits I had read about music in special needs and other areas of life.  One of his first sentences he said was sung back to me.   On our way to music class I sung to him, "Now it is time for music, music, music."  He was restless and sung back, "Now it's time for Grandma's, Grandma's!"  I was proud.  He had talked some but not like that.

The school said to make picture books and have him say what the picture was.  I made a jillion picture books.  Tanner would have to say his ABC's as I wrote them in the dirt at the park before he could swing.  Later he would have to write them.

I made 26 pages of huge ABC's on letter size paper.  Sensory issues were present and I read about trying differnt tactile approaches.  I cut out Sandpaper ABC's.  I found the experts that I thought could help me with advancing my son's chances of a better life.  I used the program "Handwriting Without Tears," to help him with writing.  This was on top of what the school was doing for him and the extra therapies I could afford like Speech and Occupational Therapy.

Do you see the pushing going on?  This continues for 18 years.  Tanner has autism so pushing can be a delicate balance.  I have him volunteering to gain job skills.  Do or did I feel guilty for being "A hard A$$?"  Sometimes!

Yet, let us ask the questions of what might have happened if I had given up?  Believed those provider's that were foolish to advise me to put my son in an institution?  Gone the path of least reisistance?  I doubt my son would be where he is today.   This has meant many battles in my marriage and in parenting my son with my husband.

Sometimes those with autism have problems with hygeine.  Tanner doesn't like his hair cut or wash it well all the time either.  I have wrestled with this for years. His counselor said to do one thing and my therapist disagrees.

This means another "Big PUSH" to help him into adulthood.  The ultimatum will be to keep his hair clean with two warnings, with the third resulting in a BUZZ CUT!  I have said this before.  Yes, I am human.  I don't follow through on everything. Parenting cam be DEMANDING.  Fights on how to parent wear you out.  However, this time I have the resolve to do it.

Thus, remember from the start of labor and delivery of your child when they tell you to "PUSH" it means for life not only during birth!

Grandpa's Cracked Mirror

A janitor was my Grandpa.
Found a cracked mirror one day.
I asked could have it in hand.
No was what he first said.
Cancer shot him from his stand.
Soon he would be dead.
It meant lots on this command.
He gave it to me as he fled.
Died October 1968.
That cracked mirror kept I did.
Where is it hid?
I know it is in my memory.
Where is it physically?
I will find it again one day.
Pass on to my son for keepsake,
As I explain,
What is meant behind
Grandpa's Cracked Mirror!
All rights reserved.

Old Timers
            According to ‘Old Timer’s’ you are not an ‘Old Timer’ unless you are their age.  That also means that you do not have bragging rights until you are that magical age.  That age is when you have earned the badge of life the hard way.
            Now this is all relative.  Those that are close to a hundred will say those that are eighty are babies.  Those that are eighty will say the babies are in their fifties. I am fast approaching fifty and think all those under me are kids and babies.  One thing I hear all these groups add is to be careful not to hang with old folks; those that are old in spirit.  The best advice that has been given by all those older than me is to remain young in spirit.
            A lady I was checking out, at my job when I was sixteen, set me straight once.  I told her, “Don’t you think you ought to slow down.”  She had just gotten back from Europe and was going golfing.
            “Honey dear, if I slow down. I just might find something wrong.” replied a spry white haired lady in her late seventies dressed ready to golf.
            That has always made me stop and think.  Now when I feel sad as I approach fifty, I think of her and Lyle.
            Lyle came into the pharmacy and said, “Hurry Sandy! I have to go to work. I mow yards. I work for an old man.”
            I had to ask how old the man was.  Lyle was in his late eighties.  As it turned out the old man was in his late nineties.  So, according to the ‘Old timers’ we are not old unless we are their age, have lived through and shared the ‘Old timer’s’ hardships.
All rights reserved
By Ollamok

Proverbs 18:24 KJV
King James Version
"A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly : and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother."

My sister is like a friend. But I have a friend Becky of forty plus years.  She sticks closer than a sister almost.  It is hard to distinguish between the two.  Why?  Because both are my friends, my best friends.

What is a friend?

  1. (Miriam Webster) a person who you like and enjoy being.
  2. (Miriam Webster) a favored companion.
  3. (Miriam Webster) a person who has a strong liking for and trust in another.

Synonyms (Miriam Webster) cohort, confident, supporter, collaborator, and main woman.

Becky and Twila meet all of these critera.

Sandra's (my defenition) of friendship.

1.  Shared experiences.
2. Support each other in all life needs.
3. Keep in touch often.
4. Help each other in all needs.
5. Will be there in all future life expereinces and future needs.
6. We do this because we care an love each other.

My sister Twila has been around since my birth.  We had our differences growing up. I owe my sister plenty.  If I need her she is always there to help and support me.  I love her not because of this but because she loves me and does it out of love.  She is an angel on earth.

Becky is my friend that got in trouble with and we grew up together.  We learned about life together.  We learned from our mistakes with one another.  We decided what kind of parents we would be because of what we did wrong.

Becky keeps in touch with me almost daily.  Cares like a sister.  She is part of my family.  She grew up knowing my sister Twila and her best friend Kathy, now my sister-in-law and another friend.

Friendship means we can call on one another anytime and we all come running not out of duty but because we care.  I am blessed to have Becky, Twila and Kathy and others in my life.

KJV Provers 27:5  Open rebuke is better than secret love.

Friends will openly rebuke you.  Hoesty is something that comes with friendship.  They call you on thing s when you need it.  They slap you down when you need it.  Not physically but with words to make you see what is good and right for you.

What more can I say about friendship?  Friendship is a special kind of love.  If you haven't  known it then you have missed a great thing on Earth. It is not to late.
If you follow the Golden Rule, you will find a friend that will treat you right back with the special kind of love called friendship.

http://www.autismdailynewscast.com/transition-parents-can-make-it-happen/13169/guest/

A child with autism, a mother of age and life in general can be enough to mke one pause. Throw a car wreck in that leaves you disabled but able to do somethings without enough to go back to work; leaves you in a real pickle.

The general explantion of situation will be the hands of time. on the clock piece.  I want yout to get the analogy of this Clockmaster situation.

I will have to go back to my childhood.  Growing up I thought my parents were not the best.  We were not the poorest and not the richest.  All of us kids had to work.  Our house was a little less than nice until our parents had the money to do it.  My mother had to work to make ends meet.  This doesn't say I never lacked for love or didn't love my parents.

My best friend was in the same boat.  Sometimes embarressed to have friends over for having holes in the carpet. Let me make this clear; we were maybe lower middle class that grew into upper middle class.  Our parents busted their backs and _______ to make sure we (my older sister and two older brothers) had it much easier than they did.  Thus, we all learned the value of money and how to work for what extra's we wanted and needed.

Even though my parents were not rich they managed to take us on a vacation every summer. This meant seeing the Grand Canyon, Yellowstone and much much more.  We camped and made sandwiches instead of hotels and restaurants.  Our parents, George Tanner and Dorothy Louise Mallo even made games out of things. They spent plenty of time of which most was quality time.

Here is where it gets better.  When we grew into the upper wealth classes, our parents gave us more.  They bought us our first car, abiet used but we didn't care.  They even bought gas and paid for insurance during the year. They had us groomed for college.        Heck we never knew we had a choice of not going.

Looking back they taught us how to be parents.  Did they make mistakes?  A few.  People are not perfect.  However, I doubt you could find two people that tried harder to do their best at raising children.  One thing my father told me that raising us was one of the parts of his life.  I understand this now that I have a child. He confessed it was hard along with on of the scariest times in his life too.

My bothers and sisters were older than me.  In some respects I was a bit like an only child.  This may sound odd but my Dad actually bought me a HOT HOT ROD.  The car was a 70 Torino. It had a 302 engine with a Holly 4 barrel, a racing kam, spagetti side pipes, Kreger Mags and much more.  My brother came back from being in the Navy for a visit and couldn't believe it.

I asked my Dad why he bought this for me.  He replied that this would give me something to talk to the boys about.  He said I would be less likely to end up in the back seat or get pregnant.  I thought about it thinking how sneaking wise my Dad had been.  He did pretty well for a man that lost his Dad at age ten and mother at seventeen.

Now talk about mom. Boy did she have a few tricks up her sleeves. She told us that we could keep whatever money we found during cleanup chores.  She left money around, about what we should earn for an allowance, directing age appropriate tasks to where the money had been placed.  She knew how well we had cleaned by how much money was or wasn't left.

Now for curfew and resrtiction violations.  My sister told me that when we had grown up trying to sneak in mom had placed three litter coke bottles in our path to wake her up so she could check the time.  Then in the morning she would confront us about what time we came in and see if we told the truth.  Mom had a few other tricks up her sleeve.

I am backing up but have to tell you of a travel came passed to us from my Aunt Gladys on the Mallo side.  We called it Zip Zip.  Basically, you played to get all the horses you could.  If you saw a horse you said Zip.  If you saw a group...Zip Zip before others got the group. A white horse counted as two.  If you zipped a cow, donkey, pig or other animal you all your horses.  To get all the other teams horses when you came to a cementary you called Slopsky.  My dad had an unfair advantage as he had travled more and knew where the cementaries were.

Needless to say, being the youngest, I did plenty of wrong Zip Ziping.  Being picked last in your own family is unpleasant.  Mom and Dad came to my rescue often.  Thus, parents feel the pain of all their children and act accordingly to sooth over it. Yet, there were plenty of times my parents made me suffer the pain of growing up.  Why? To prepare me for the what was to come as an adult.

A funny story about the Zip Zip came and a legend in our family.  I kept asking "Is that a horse. Is that a horse?"  My Dad and Mom couldn't believe their eyes.  Dad pulled over and sure enough it was a Mountain Lion chained to the bumper of a station wagon.  That was in the sixties, about 65 or 66.  The owner worked construction.  All of kids got to pet it.  That wouldn't happen in today's society.  However, I wasn't the cause of loosing horses to the other team that day.

Are you getting the feel for family time spent together?  My mom was the glue that held us together.  My dad was a Seargeant and the hard driving force behind making us do. Mom was the soft approach. Both are needed to balance out the other.  God blessing's come in two parent's in a family. One gets relief when worn out on the job and the children get a breather from the hard driving parent. Blessings come from God knowing what we need at each time and stage of life.

Okay, I blended some of the early 1 and 2 O'clock periods of life in the hands of time together.  Please forgive me while I am trying to tell you all about how this goes together.

3 and 4 O'clock come after highschool during college while getting my BS in Pharmacy.  Growing up occured quite a lot during this time.  I worked every weekend and kept grades up.  Graduation came and after a year I bought my own house. Dad was pro mom was con.  During college my friends that didn't go to college got married.  I had proposals but not out of real love. Dad kept me grounded and mom provided emotional support.

These periods helped me define my needs, wants and desires.  I have to admit I lacked in setting boundaries.  Please if you have this issue get some help or read some books on this situation before burn out and explode.

5 and 6 post college.  Graduation was long waited for but never did I as many realize that college would be looked back on as one of the best times in life.  God guides you all of your life and prepares you for each step to come.  Even when you stray you learn.

Started dating husband or future at that time.  We dated nine years before we married.  It is about this time that my relationship with my mom started to breakdown a little.  Mom was so noisy about what when where and how I was doing it seemed she never gave me a breather.  There is more but it is petty. She didn't know she was doing this.  You see she was still learning how to be a mother to an adult child.  Never the less taking some communication classes never hurt.

This goes back to boundaries.  You don't owe people explantions.  Proverbs 29:11 KJV

11 A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards.

This goes against tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth. Thus, wisdom must be sought and learned.  Reading the Bible and askng God for help is a great way.  Here is where I owe my mom for exposing me to Christian teachings early in life.

7 O'clock. Marriage is an adjustment no matter what you think. Children even more.  Then if you have a child with special needs, special abilities and is a blessing that teaches you many things.  I thought I was prepared for a child. I was an older mom. We waited until we had been married over a year.  We were money okay.  Both of us were Christians.  I don't want to go into all the challenges but just say it hit us hard in our marriage. Frustrations was at the base of the blame game.  This took a hit on our marriage.

However, these things made us stronger.  If you want to do yourself a favor, quit doubting your parenting so much.  Mistakes will be made.  As long as you try and earnestly want to do your best, ask God for help; I'm sure all is okay.  Another big favor you can do is buy the book by Wanda Draper, "Your Child Is Smarter Than Think!"  She reasures parents that they are fine and their children are not stupid.  It helped me and I know God hooked me up with the information. Trust me I asked for her information at an appointment and I got her cell phone number.  Wanda is an internationally known child developmental specialist. She writes on a level that all can understand but gives great common sense advise.  Spectacular book.

I promise you I can't go into all the situations that rule out chance that God is acting in my life.  He is the Clock Master of time in your life in mine.  If you trust him he will guide you.  He gave me the parents I needed and now I know he gave my son the two parents he needed and it is a blessing.   My husband counters my harshness learned from being brought up military. I will not apoligize for being a pusher. My son wouldn't be this far along if I handn't pushed. However, Bill, my husband is a blessing of a counter weight to even out my rought edges.

8 O'clock. I panic about having my son prepared for life. He is an only child and being special needs; I don't want him lost after we his parents die.   There is no real close relatives to be his guardian if needed.  Therefore, I want him to be as functional as possible.

Well, my idea was to contact the historical socity and see if there was a fit for a volunteer position.  I thought there would be less stress on social interaction on one side and then on giving tours more social interaction.  Long story of how I thought it would fit but now know God directed.  He will start out scanning and work up to digitization. Some have worked this into a job.  They have worked with autistics before.

My son interviewd with one person, the head of volunteers, and then when the person came down man came down that my son would be working with or under; I overheard one tell the other my son "has appropriate conversation skills!"  Made my day.  I knew then that I need to refresh my relationship with God, The Clockmaster of time.  God has a plan and reason for all that happens.

     Proverbs 16:9

     New King James Version (NKJV)

     9 A man’s heart plans his way, But the Lord directs his steps.

The rest of time is still going on.  I hope you see how parents, mom's and dad's impact you on mothering on Mother's Day.  Hoping you have gleaned some insight from my post that I have learned in life.

One thing I do not want you to do is pity me for having an autistic or special needs child.  He has heaped too many blessings on my life to regret having him.  He teaches me to enjoy life and relax.  Better yet he has helped me to understand myself and enjoy life.

Happy Mother's day. Don't forget step parents when step should not be in the word of parent.  A mother is not just one that gives birth. A mother is one that takes a child through life and the teachings of all steps of life.  I prefer to say in the Christian manner but understand if you disagree.  I will uphold your right to believe as you want.  But, never forget the impact your parents have in your life and be grateful for it.

C  says "Continue to be creative while complying if your conscious agrees."


Life is a Puzzle seeming to have one piece missing all the time.

C is the word that says continue creativity in compliance when the conscious agrees.



All the Colors of the Rainbow and a circle seem never ending

God wants us to continue until we finish his plan for us.  He has put us here for more than fun of watching us create, mess up and do right when we turn around by worshiping him.  He wants us to enjoy life.

Proverbs 16:9    King James Version  9 A man's heart deviseth his way:         but the Lord directeth his steps.

God gives us talents continue to develop.   In the Parables of the Talents Mathew 25:14-30, those that do so are rewarded in beingcreativly compliant with a conscious desire to please God

Continue means to go on.  Persist in what one is doing. Or, resume.  Those that continue believe in God in the face of adverse conditions, testing of faith, or economic hard times; will continuethrough out their lifetime.

Creative involves the imagination in the production of art or work of some type. A creative person has the ability to make new things.  God is creative in making us new again in Christ. God iscreative in helping us figure out our life.

Creative quilting

Complying with a conscious that agrees.  This is something God teaches us with his word. The Bible is all about right and wrong.  Joy and what will lead to a way of life that ends the wrong way.  The following two verses some it up for me on how life shall be if we "complying with a conscious that agrees."

Saved

KJV Matthew 6

33But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.

34Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day isthe evil thereof.

If we follow these two verses we will be continuing to becreativly complying with a conscious that is in agreement with God.

Blogging the alphabet.  "D says demonstrate for others."


Demonstrate means to show by example.  Demonstrate also is defined as, "to display openly or publicly, such as feelings." Alke words include; establish, exhibit, flaunt, prove and authenticate.


Teach comes to my mind.  A teacher demonstrates to students in learning.  He or she shows students how to to something involved in learning the material of that classs.


Prenting comes to mind.  A parent does a alot of demonstrating.  Showing what to do and how to do it.
A parent should lead by example.   This may mean doing things over and over.  Sometimes the parent must relearn something he/she made a mistake on and requires unlearning on the part of a child.  This isn't really unlearning but the process of learning from mistakes.   That is called life.


Military people teach by example and lead this way.  They establish and exhibit the behavior and profeciency they expect.  Remembe these are the peopel that protect our country so the level qulaity expected is very high.


God/Jesus/Holy Ghost is the ulimate demonstrater of qualities in life expected of us.


The Bible says how to live.  


        John 15:7 (KJV) If ye abide in me, and my words abide in you, ye shall as whad ye will , and it             shall be done unto you.


        II Timothy 1:13 (KJV) Hold fast the from of sound words, which thou hast heard of me, in faith             and love which is in Christ Jesus.


        Romans 3:10 (KJV) As it is written, There is non righteouse, no, not one. 
        Romans 3:22-24 (KJV) Even the righeousness of God which is by faith of Jesus Christ unto all             and upon all that believe for the is no difference. For all have sinned and come short of the glory             of God; Being justified freely bu his grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus;  
     
       Romans 2:1  (KJV) Therefore thou art inexcuable, O man, whosever thou art that judgest: for                wherein thou judgest another thou condemest thyslef; for thout that judgest doest the same thigsz 
  
       Ephesians 4:26-27 (KJV)  Be ye angry, and sin not: le not the sun go down upon your wrath:
       Neither give place to the devil.


These are but a few verses to show/tell a person how to live.  Even if one takes God out of the equation the Bible is  a great book for living by.  It is a code of honor and way of living.


Faith is the hardest lesson to learn and then it is the easist in ways.  God demonstrates his majesty in the structure of the Earth.  The beauty of the Earth stand as a testament in my eyes.  That order follows a form equal or close to Bible ways when none has been preached again says deonstrates to me how God reveals himself in the way he wants us to live.


Again, take God out of the equation.  Doesn't not judging another because one does the same things sound like good advice?  Accepting anger is our nature but making up before the sun goes down?
I take these verses as exhibits that the Bible is a way to live that God demonstrates to us in his Word the Bible

Bureaucratitis Infected United States Government
Our United States government has become infected with Bureaucratistis (a disease where bureaucracy has inflamed itself to cause a slow down in moving forward and a culture of stagnation where the entity is more important than those it
should serve of the “We the people,” government). Our government has outgrown some of the purposes of individual agencies and groups. Many of these groups fail to realize they serve the people and actually have the force of writing law with t
their regulations clauses.
The Health And Human Services, HHS, umbrella’s a gigantic conglomerate. A few of the departments include Department of Education, FDA, CDC, NIH and more. Duplication is rampant. The total budge for 2013 appears to be $896.4
billion.*Fifty-five percent of that is for Medicare along with administering it. *
*Thus, leaving that off there is $397 billion left. I am not sure if this includes grants they exercise authority over. That has been hard to figure out and research.
However, I personally do not belief it does. If I am correct, imagine how much more power that adds to this gigantic conglomerate .
Now, I know we need some of the groups under the HHS. But, the resources that are spent on finding good information goes to waste. The huge conglomerate production

Tipton Anderson PhD Black Man and Dead Man
 For purposes of protecting privacy I have changed the name of this man. This is an interview that has occurred over many years. Yet, his story is worth telling. I will condense it as if it was an interview.
“Hello Mr. Anderson. How are you today?” I ask.
“Fine Just fine.” replies Mr. Anderson. He should be addressed as doctor because of his degree but prefers mister.
“Mr. Anderson will you please explain how we know each other for the establishing our relationship.” I say.
“You came out and helped me without my asking one day at the grocery store. I know how busy pharmacists are. That impressed me. So I checked your prices and changed over to your pharmacy. I am glad I did. You are my pharm-cist druggist as we older ones say.” states Mr. Anderson.
“Mr. Tipton what state are you from and what did your parents do?” I ask as my first question.
“My parents were sharecroppers and I was born in Mississippi. I picked cotton as soon as I could. My whole family did” pride shows on Mr. Anderson’s face as he talks. He is a soft spoken man that really never boasts. You too can hear the tone of pride.
“Where did you get your PhD?” I ask.
“I went to Washington University in St. Louis.” Said Mr. Anderson
“Wow. I bet that was hard being a black man in the depression. I told Rev. Smith the other day that stealing is hard to justify. He said how about a mother that is trying to feed her family. I said that is a hard one but then I thought of you and your wife having your degrees and getting them during the depression and being black. I so admire you. It could not have been easy. How did you get your money for school?
“I ran a pool hall and worked long hours there. My wife did all kinds of work.” Mr. Anderson says. This time his expression gets serious. “You know Sandra people today don’t want to work hard. I mean really hard. I know you do because we have talked. Your father made sure you knew what it was like to work hard from a child. But so many do not get this at all. You raise your children the way your father did you! HEAR ME!”
“YES SIR. I hear you. I intend to just that.” I let him know I respected his age and elder authority in a way.   I go on to ask, “How and when did you meet your wife?”
Mr. Anderson beams with life again. “I meet her in a class. I knew from the first time I saw her that I was going to marry her. I would court her the proper way. I did and we married after we both finished our PhD. Now we have been married almost seventy years. Sandra that is true love. Don’t settle for anything less.”
“Mr. Anderson, what brought to Guthrie, Oklahoma?” I was really curious. He could have gone a number of places but he chose here.
“Originally it was Langston University. We both taught there. I ended up being the principal of the black high’s school in Guthrie. Then when the schools were integrated; I was the first black principal of the high school. I had no trouble with the whites or blacks. If either one needed a spanking I did it.” Says Mr. Anderson.
“When did you retire and what do you do now? What are your hobbies?” This is my next question.
“We spread our time between hear and Palm Springs. We do all sorts of things. I love golf. My wife loves to shop. We really only come back here to check on family and go to the doctor and take care of the house and bills. Of course to see our little pharmacist that makes sure we take our medication right and won’t let me fill our medication twice. Remember that time you told me to go home and find my medication? You said I could get it again but why spend the extra money?”
I shake my head yes. “It is always easy to wait on you. I like being able to do real pharmacy stuff when you come in. Instead of just being forced to go non-stop rush rush. You know how we are backed up so often. Thanks for the interview.”

Tipton Anderson PhD Black Man and Dead Man
 For purposes of protecting privacy I have changed the name of this man. This is an interview that has occurred over many years. Yet, his story is worth telling. I will condense it as if it was an interview.
“Hello Mr. Anderson. How are you today?” I ask.
“Fine Just fine.” replies Mr. Anderson. He should be addressed as doctor because of his degree but prefers mister.
“Mr. Anderson will you please explain how we know each other for the establishing our relationship.” I say.
“You came out and helped me without my asking one day at the grocery store. I know how busy pharmacists are. That impressed me. So I checked your prices and changed over to your pharmacy. I am glad I did. You are my pharm-cist druggist as we older ones say.” states Mr. Anderson.
“Mr. Tipton what state are you from and what did your parents do?” I ask as my first question.
“My parents were sharecroppers and I was born in Mississippi. I picked cotton as soon as I could. My whole family did” pride shows on Mr. Anderson’s face as he talks. He is a soft spoken man that really never boasts. You too can hear the tone of pride.
“Where did you get your PhD?” I ask.
“I went to Washington University in St. Louis.” Said Mr. Anderson
“Wow. I bet that was hard being a black man in the depression. I told Rev. Smith the other day that stealing is hard to justify. He said how about a mother that is trying to feed her family. I said that is a hard one but then I thought of you and your wife having your degrees and getting them during the depression and being black. I so admire you. It could not have been easy. How did you get your money for school?
“I ran a pool hall and worked long hours there. My wife did all kinds of work.” Mr. Anderson says. This time his expression gets serious. “You know Sandra people today don’t want to work hard. I mean really hard. I know you do because we have talked. Your father made sure you knew what it was like to work hard from a child. But so many do not get this at all. You raise your children the way your father did you! HEAR ME!”
“YES SIR. I hear you. I intend to just that.” I let him know I respected his age and elder authority in a way.   I go on to ask, “How and when did you meet your wife?”
Mr. Anderson beams with life again. “I meet her in a class. I knew from the first time I saw her that I was going to marry her. I would court her the proper way. I did and we married after we both finished our PhD. Now we have been married almost seventy years. Sandra that is true love. Don’t settle for anything less.”
“Mr. Anderson, what brought to Guthrie, Oklahoma?” I was really curious. He could have gone a number of places but he chose here.
“Originally it was Langston University. We both taught there. I ended up being the principal of the black high’s school in Guthrie. Then when the schools were integrated; I was the first black principal of the high school. I had no trouble with the whites or blacks. If either one needed a spanking I did it.” Says Mr. Anderson.
“When did you retire and what do you do now? What are your hobbies?” This is my next question.
“We spread our time between hear and Palm Springs. We do all sorts of things. I love golf. My wife loves to shop. We really only come back here to check on family and go to the doctor and take care of the house and bills. Of course to see our little pharmacist that makes sure we take our medication right and won’t let me fill our medication twice. Remember that time you told me to go home and find my medication? You said I could get it again but why spend the extra money?”
I shake my head yes. “It is always easy to wait on you. I like being able to do real pharmacy stuff when you come in. Instead of just being forced to go non-stop rush rush. You know how we are backed up so often. Thanks for the interview.”

Guilt can make one feel bad.  I know it has me on many occasions.
Yet, when dealing with my child I come back to realizing I am doing the right thing for my child.
My husband would let this child go without learning hard lessons.
What is your child's handicap, special needs or not?
Let's start a point system.  Each following yes quetions is worth 5 points.  The closer you get to 100 the less handicapped your child is. This to me means the child or youth is better off?
Does your child know how to use the washer and dryer?
Can he vacuum?
Can he heat up a pizza?
Take out the trash?
Can she unload the diswasher?
Clean up the bathroom?
Fold clothes?
Can she do her own laundry?
Help unload the groceries?
Ask for help when she needs it?
Charge his or her cell phone?
Keep up with his wallet/cell phone and other personal items?
Remember family phone numbers to call in an emergency?
Know when and when not to call 911?
Willing to learn new skills?
Learning from parents?
Learn to go beyond their comfort zone?
Can they dust?
Mow the lawn?
Have parents that care that they learn these things?
I have a child  with special needs.  However the washer dryer question came from a highly college educated child.  For the first time this youth was home from college in the summer and his parents were upset with him and told him to do his laundry.  With intepredation I heard he called his dad at work, "Dad how do you work the washer and dryer?"  He had never done his own laundry.  Twenty something and this young man didn't know how to use the washer or dryer.
Guilt is what I felt when I thought my son may not eat tomorrow when I am out volunteering. Then I thought this is ridiculous.  I discussed this with my therapist.  I can't be tied to my son forever. I can prepare him or let him end up in a substandard group home where they warehouse these kids.
Remember you are a parent not your child's friend.  I felt guilt for a bit. My husband would make me try to feel guilt.  I decided to ask my son what he wanted to do. He decided he would rather reheat a pizza than call him a pizza.
This may sound like a stupid thing. However, my son's anxiety with autism is not a small deal.  His fears cripple him.  I have to push him to go beyond himself.  Why? Because I want him to be able to have a life.
Handicap is what you are doing if you don't push your child or prepare them. My son has called in a pizza.  My husband is a roadblock in some ways.  He just dosen't have the heart to tell this child, "No!" Or, to make him go beyond.
My son can't mow the yard.  He can't do a lot of things the male figure usually teachers the child.  One has to understand that my husband's father was not around for him growing up or his life was very different from mine.
I learned to mow the yard, babysit and do plenty. My father was in the Army; a Seargeant. My father pushed us to grow up.
Parents of special needs children or not.  You do your children a dis-service if you do not prepare them for this world.  When you start feeling guilty remember you had your child and it is your responsibility to be a parent not a friend.
Do you have to be perfect?  No! But, you do have to be a parent.
In golf, some want a high handicap when playing others that are better than them.  In real life no one knows what will happen.  Prepare your child the best you can.
Make your son do the laundry, carry out the trash and more.  You know what your child is capable of and you can push him as far as he can go.  But, don't be a Disney, "Feel Good Parent," or shun your parenting because you are afraid.
Step up to the plate and be a parent and don't handicap your child.

The Wedding That Followed Murphy’s Law
            “What store are your flowers and cake coming from?” asked the replacement caterer/wedding planner for Homeland Stores Inc. Homeland Stores was also where Sandra just happened to work as a pharmacist.
            “Store number 888. Don’t you have a record of that? You have done this before?” Sandra states in a very huffy mood.
            “Oh yes. Of course I have. Yes, Yes. I see it here right now. Don’t worry Sandra everything will be perfect.” said the replacement.
            August 21, 1993 rolls around. Sandra is at the church early, as all brides usually are, getting ready. Her hairdresser was doing her hair and makeup when the door open and the planner steps in. “Sandra, do you know what store is doing your cake and flowers?”
            “It is 888 but shouldn’t you know that? Is everything going as planned? Will the cake be here and the flowers? Is my wedding going to come off as planned? What kind of a planner are you? ##########. Do you offer this kind of service to our customers?” Sandra belts out.
            The hairdresser says, “Sandra your make up is perfect don’t start sweating…or get to excited. It will all come together I promise.” Sandra chills at this point thankful for such a person as Melissa. Melissa then starts on Sandra’s hair.
            About an hour before the wedding the flowers arrive. Pictures are being taken. The cake has not arrived. The planner tells Sandra it will be here. “Sandra we have one small problem. Where are your toasting glasses? It was your responsibility to furnish them.”
            Sandra starts to turn red; again Melissa steps in “Twila and I will get this one. If you mess up my makeup job I will kill you. Do you understand?” Melissa goes to the local mall and buys some toasting glasses.
            The pictures and wedding itself go off without much of a hitch. Of course there is the normal amount of nervousness everyone is feeling. At least the Bride and Groom never noticed the little flower girl that had to be taken to the bathroom in the middle of the ceremony.
            As it comes time for the reception, the couple enters the church gym. Sandra takes one look at the cake and sees a leaning tower. The cake is crooked and looks like part of it has fallen and not baked well. Tina, Sandra’s best friend, sees Sandra’s eyes. Tina knows she had better keep Sandra away from the planner.
            The cake was not the only thing that went wrong. In the end Sandra got a refund for the whole affair. Really though who noticed? Sandra and only a few of those in the wedding party were aware of the flaws that took place that day. Many will talk for years about the cute little flower girl that had to go potty in the middle of the ceremony. Most remember the guitar player and the photographer. If you asked any guest if they liked the spread set before them they respond that it was quite delightful. Even though this may have been The Wedding That Followed Murphy’s Law, the marriage was blessed by God that day. Joy can come in the middle of chaos if those that want to see joy see it.

Death-I Fear Not

In the past,
Death made me tremble.
Fear beyond knowledge
Where there was none it so seemed.
Yet, then I was saved.
God gives me comfort.
I never thought I could be by the bedside
Of one dying.
Then I realized how selfish of me.
My father's death was hard for me.
Then I had an epiphany.
I was to be there for him.
Get over my selfishness.
Talking to friends about death,
Made it a more pleasant event.
My father was a good man.
Heaven is for REAL.
My friend witnessed a spirit released from her bother.
There is no other way to get to heaven.
Fear is evil.
Fear stifles one in place.
Living then cannot occur.
Sometimes causes one to hurl.
Learn to trust.
Are you will be rust.
Know where you will go.
For HEAVEN IS FOR REAL.
It is a steal of a deal.
Live this life without strife.
Be by the bedsides of those that die.
It is for them and not you.
Remember theif life and not your petty fears.
Remember their dear times they gave.
Behave with fears in check.
Heck it is the least one can do.
Do not unleash the beast of fear.
Faith is the gateway to living and death.
Fear death no more.

Author Notes
My presonal expereince with death. It has made me stronger. If you live in fear of death your life will be stolen.

© Sandra Lynn Mallo Adcock. All rights reserved

When my son learned about biology at school he came home saying "You lied to me!"  
Starting in mid-sentence is nothing new for him when he is hyper.  This is espcially the behavior one gets from Tanner when he thinks he has been lied to by someone.  Which is worse when it is a person he trusts to level with him . Trust me I level with him to a fault.
"Okay son what are you talking about? Remember I haven't been with you all day! Take a deep breath and think about the words you want to use to tell me what I lied to you about please."  I have learned to be direct with Tanner and focus him.  This is no easy feat for a woman that Attention Defiect Disorder and traits of other disorders. 
"You told me women have eggs like chickens." Tanner says in a yes tan excited yell.
Ah, now I know what he is talking about.  I read him the book,Where Do Babies Come From?  The book uses the analogy of chicken's laying eggs.  How did I recover from this one fast?
Remember Tanner believed in what his mom told him and I also told him to respect what his teacher's taught him. He wanted an answer and fast.  
I was fast on my  feet that day.  I explained that women have eggs like chicken's but they are different in that they are liquid eggs.  I stated the book was a very easy explanation for young children but that women do have eggs like chickens they are in just a different form.
See how autsitic's are very concrete?  See how they do not like to be lied to?  Honest and concrete in their thinking, autistics can nail you if you are not careful.  
Although this is funny, let it be a word to the wise; be careful and ready for those questions later on from stories and explanations you use.  I wasn't.  I got caught off guard and landed on my feet barely.